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A little more about that dirtyword: Blame

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Should I sue the hotel? Not saying there's anything new, here. But is is a practical application, something to keep in mind when someone is busy blaming you for God knows what.  When we think back later, we say, What a silly argument! This morning FD left without his keys. He returned right away and knocked on the door. It took me awhile to open up and he was angry-- at me -- for taking so long, making him late. The best possible spin on this is to assume that sharing emotions is a good thing, better out than in. Permission to let off steam is what healthy couples do. So why does it feel so bad? A few months ago, after stubbing my toe on the metal frame of a hotel bed, I cried out. Maybe I even cursed the hotel. It hurt a lot, warranted expletives, facial grimaces. The object of the anger, unclear. A person can't exactly rant at a bed frame, it is inanimate, doesn't care. Hotel management might care, but it is inconvenient to go to the front desk, ask for the manager, compl...