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First, Baton Rouge . Three police officers, shot down. One, just vacuuming his car. I saw the video, the reenactment. The shooter, an ex-Marine, hides behind the corner of a convenience store at a gas station, peeks out, eyes his target, an expert marksman, takes them down. What is this? At first you think, Oh, another reverse racism thing, Race in America, the unsolved puzzle, the ultimate in displacement, the psychological defense, placing one's negativity, anger, on someone, something else. If I come home angry and slam a door, or kick the dog, my anger is now in the door, it is the dog's problem. I feel better, momentarily An immature defense, and too simple an explanation for recent murders in Dallas, five policemen were killed, nine injured, and now . . . more dead in Baton Rouge. But this massacre is different; one of the policemen, one of the victims is not white, his skin tone is closer to black, so there must be some mistake. The perpetrator, Gavin Eugene Long, reache...

(1) LOSING PETS, BEING LIKE PETS Once in a while you'll see a sign on a tree, Have you seen  Fluffy ?  Somebody in my neighborhood keeps losing his iguana and posts pictures in the summer. I always wonder, if I found him, what would I do? But this isn't about that. Therapists hear many pet stories. People are crazy about their animals, marvel at their better qualities, worry when they are ill, and grieve their loss. When a favorite pet moves onto the next world, it is as if a person in the family has died. Because pets are family. They live with us, we feed them; they reciprocate with unconditional love. It is a fair deal. My brother and I have the same memory. You tell me how this happens. He tells the story exactly the same way: One chilly autumn morning, the dog scratched at the back door to go out to the yard. About to leave for school, I saw an accident on the kitchen floor, wiped it up quickly, then let him out. He'd been sick for months, but he was a very old dog. ...