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1. CHANUKAH   It's over, Chanukah. but it was fun.  It's traditional to wish people Happy Holidays    this time of year . Knowing we get at least a day off, we ask one another what is happening, how do we celebrate? Will there be a big turkey dinner? A ham, perhaps?  It happened just last week. I have a new friend who swims at the same time I do each day, and she asked what I do for XMAS. Big dinner XMAS eve? So I told her that no, we don't do that. But it brought back a very old memory. My brothers, me, and my parents, seems like it was always a Wednesday on December 24. The store, my father's store, finally closed for the holiday. This is before online shopping, so retail shops on the streets thrived in November-December. A family could eat all year on the profits for the season alone. So it was a celebration, and we DID have a big dinner, even if it was in the middle of the week, simply celebrating the end of the retail season and so much work. And it was gr...

No, not my usual post. But this stuff has been bothering me, and this is how I'm working it out. I feel badly for making Mr. Franken an example, he was a champion, is the truth. But we're learning that if you can't be a mensch, a human being who is careful with other people, you're likely to lose more than a few fans. It's the end of the year, and what a year it has been. Distressing, in a word. But just when you're about to give up hope, something wonderful happens, like Roy Moore loses! So on that note, let's get started with what might prove to become an annual post.  Chris Sacca, the only mensch The EVERYONE NEEDS THERAPY 2017 SEXUAL MISCONDUCT AWARDS 1. Worst Loser Award Roy Moore , congratulations!  Just in time for the celebration of Chanukah, we hear that the man who thought nothing of taking a fourteen year old girl to his house to get acquainted, lost election for Congress. Going in he was ahead at the polls, but thanks to the African American vote...

If President Trump talked to #therapydoc Hi out there! It has been a super busy "holiday" season, meaning people touch base in therapy as holidays approach, so I'm scrambling to stick to regular hours (working too much at a stressful job can be bad for your health). So I haven't posted in awhile, But this one, hopefully, will make up for that. It is a conversation between me and our President, therapydoc and Donald Trump, about NPD, narcissistic personality disorder. On Twitter sometimes people have these long, connected, stream of consciousness posts, not exactly lectures, but opinions. If there's one thing you probably guessed about therapydoc, (s)he loves to express her/his practice wisdom, which is an educated opinion. Loving attention, thrilling to the sound of my own voice, you would think that it would be a perfect venue for me.  But honestly, this one features the President of the United States, or #POTUS, and I don't want to suffer retaliation of any ...

Leigh Corfman, 14-Roy Moore, 32  Roy Moore, a judge of questionable character Roy Moore, always smiling  First, a quick story. Yes, a #MeToo. I'm fifteen and am visiting a friend I haven't seen in a long time. We were once best friends, but when we hit high school, no classes together, we didn't keep up. But for some reason I'm there, in her house, and so are about a dozen others. I haven't made it past the kitchen when her father, in a big blue bathrobe, appears. He is a very tall, imposing man, and he's all smiles, very happy to see me, especially. He takes my hand into his, and proceeds to pull it under his bathrobe. I pull free and spit out these words. I cannot believe, to this day, that these words came to me: Go jag off in the john! Then I ran home and told my mom, who told me: Don't tell your father. He'll kill him . So I didn't, and I didn't tell anyone, not for another 20 years. Because that is how long it can be for a person to proces...

It isn't a new story, not to me. Not a new thing, sexual assault, rape, harassment, but having listened to dozens of victims (fine, survivors) tell their stories over dozens of years, surprisingly it never gets boring. A man in his thirties talks about his experience as a young boy, age six, and a rabbi (rabbi!) who took his youth. You see, it is not only the priests, this is cross-cultural. Or a woman in her twenties. She writes the details in long-hand, cannot talk about what happened to her. She is married now, hates sex. Another man is introduced to porn and sex as a schoolboy, an older cousin. My patient cannot maintain a relationship, cannot finish what he starts, hardly ever initiates. He is addicted to online porn. A prostitute tells me that she's had sex with hundreds of men, was told that it was all she was good for. She believed it for the longest time. A mother brings in her daughter, says that incest is in the family and she fears that her daughter has been moleste...

Stephen Paddock talks about is happy-go-lucky self Unusual, isn't it, that mental health professionals aren't chiming in with a diagnosis for Stephen Paddock? We usually do. I usually do.  No small crime, massacring 58 innocent people, injuring hundreds more.  People died for doing nothing more American than listening to country music.  Yesterday's New York Times The Las Vegas police believe Mr. Paddock may have had a secret life.   More accurately, he didn't advertise his intentions. We all have secret lives, and he was particularly private. But he could be friendly. He went on a gun shopping spree in October, 2016, and the salespeople found him pleasant enough. Reports from his brother Eric Paddock: From an early age, he focused on gaining complete control over his life and not having to rely on anyone. He cycled through a series of jobs he thought would make him rich “He went to work for the I.R.S. because he thought that’s where the money was, but it turned ou...